Ep 236 | Minimizing Your Limiting Beliefs with Tracy Pleschourt
Do you ever wonder why some people find great success and grow faster and you might not be? Sure, it could be budget, staffing, marketing expertise, and on and on. But have you taken a moment to see how your mindset and limiting beliefs might be leading you to self-sabotage?
What you'll learn:
→ how mindset and limiting beliefs affect us.
→ her S E L F framework.
Want to skip ahead? Here are key takeaways:
[7:07] It starts with understanding the neuroscience in your brain and the difference between your right and left side. The left side is your primitive brain and leads to fight or flight. It supports you in times of crisis and its goal is to keep you safe and alive.
[9:39] S E L F is her framework to help you stop with self-sabotage. It teaches you to lean on yourself and utilize yourself as the solution to your problems.
[14:46] S- start with a decision. What do you want? More importantly you have to answer, why do you want it??? This puts you in a place of power.
[18:55] E- eliminate the self-sabotage. Starts with understanding the narratives that you tell yourself. Then, how can you change the way you react to them so they don't interfere with what you want for yourself.
[22:09] L- leveraging your prodigy brain. By having awareness, you're already engaging your prodigy brain. This is where you can access empathy, discovery, innovation, etc.
[26:29] F- finish with a decision. Small steps lead to big change. What are the easiest steps you can take towards your goals.
Founder, Self-Made U
Tracy Pleschourt, the Founder of Self-Made U and the Host of Secrets of the Self-Made Podcast helps men and women achieve their goals and solve all problems FAST by developing SELF-CONTROL!
Tracy has mastered and now teaches an operating system necessary to manage your mind and eliminate any obstacle, including overeating, overdrinking, time management, career & relationship changes and professional development.
Just a few years ago, Tracy was a successful advertising executive. Stifled by the rigorous, time-consuming demands of the corporate world, she traded in her 20 years of advertising to pursue her real passion: personal and professional coaching.
Tracy is a student of her own work and has stopped overeating, overdrinking, and created a multi six figure business while teaching others to do the same. Tracy dedicates her work to ambitious, life-long learners yearning for solutions and seeking a better way to create the results they desire and deserve. She instills
confidence and a call to action that leads to maximum achievement and happiness. Learn more: https://www.self-madeu.com
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[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] We're getting close to the end of the year. And I hope that you're making amazing plans for 2024. And one of the things that I run into as I'm putting my plans together is really just the struggle to get out of my own way. You might call it limiting beliefs, your mindset, whatever. And so I wanted to have someone come on the podcast, and really share ways that we kind of get out of our own way. How can we recognize the things that we're doing to ourselves a self sabotage that's holding us back? Because we all do it, whether we realize it or not. And so I'm really excited for today's episode, it was so fun to record.
Tracy Pleschourt is the founder of self made you and the host of secrets of the self made podcast helped helping men and women achieve their goals and solve all problems fast by developing self control. Tracy has mastered and now teaches an operating system necessary to manage your mind and eliminate any obstacle including overeating, over drinking time management, career and relationship changes and professional development. Just a few years ago, Tracy was a successful advertising executive stifled by the rigorous time consuming demands of the corporate world. She traded in her 20 years of advertising to pursue her real passion, personal and professional coaching. Tracy is a student of her own work and has stopped overeating over drinking and created a multi six figure business while teaching others to do the same. Tracy dedicates her work to ambitious lifelong learners, yearning for solutions and seeking a better way to create the results they desire and deserve. She instills confidence and a call to action that leads to maximum achievement and happiness.
We could have probably talked for hours on this episode, we had a great time, I think you're going to learn a lot from her. And just ways to think about how you're showing up really for yourself so that you can show up at your best version for everyone else that is around you personally, professionally, and everything in between. So I think you're going to enjoy this episode, let me know what you think.
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Let's get into the episode.
[Intro] You're listening to the digital marketing therapy podcast. I'm your host, Sami Bedell-Mulhern. Each month we dive deep into a digital marketing or fundraising strategy that you can implement in your organization. Each week, you'll hear from guest experts, nonprofits, and myself on best practices, tips and resources to help you raise more money online and reach your organizational goals.
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] Hello, hello, everyone. Please join me in welcoming Tracy Pleschourt to the podcast. Tracy. So glad you're here.
[Tracy Pleschourt] Thank you. I'm happy to be here.
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] We were just saying before we got on air that it's rare. We're both in the same city ish. I don't think I've recorded a podcast with anybody in the Minneapolis area. So this is fun.
[Tracy Pleschourt] Yeah, this is awesome. And we didn't even like go into the weather and all the things that Minnesotans usually love to talk about. Because
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] we know it's December I know I asked my husband today when he was dropping my daughter off at school. I said How was it? He goes it's December in Minnesota. Like why are you asking me?
Tracy Pleschourt 3:33
Yeah, but here's the crazy thing is gonna be like in the 50s tomorrow. We're spoiled. We're being spoiled this year. Yeah.
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] Um, but we're you're here to talk mindset. We are here to talk limiting beliefs. We are here to talk about why or how we can kind of just be our best self advocates. And I love this topic. And I'm just so grateful that you're here to share all of your words of wisdom. So I would just love for you to kind of share with everybody what is it about mindset and limiting beliefs and why is that exciting to you? How did you get into this work? Tell me all the things.
[Tracy Pleschourt] Yeah, so I own a company called self made you. And it really stemmed from my need to kind of get beyond all of the self sabotage that I saw going on in my life. I spent almost 20 years in the corporate world. I actually sat on the Minneapolis downtown council for a while and so I had some really big aspirations. I found myself in this kind of hyper achiever mode, where when I didn't achieve something that I have set my mind to, I made it mean something about my worth. And it was taken me down and I wanted desperately to better understand myself. I will wanted to get beyond that self sabotage. But not only get beyond it, I really wanted to understand what was causing it so that I could, you know, avoid it as much as possible. In my future, I had a very hard time living with guilt and shame and defeat. And it was so self imposed, but I had no idea. And I struggled with things like overeating, I struggled with over eating, I left corporate and I started my own business. And so I went through a phase where I was under earning, I then went through another phase where I was overspending. So I did all of the overs and the unders, as a result of not understanding myself of really like getting out in this suffering that really started to compound net negative results. And so there was a day where I woke up, and I was like, Okay, here I am working with people, primarily women who wanted to start purpose driven businesses, that was my passion. And I found myself using so many kind of life coaching concepts, over business strategy concepts that you would think you would be helping people with, because so much of what was hanging them up was self sabotage knows these narratives that they were listening to. And believing that was stunting their growth, it wasn't necessarily the fact that they didn't know the best marketing tactic, or they didn't have the sales experience. It had everything to do with the fact that they were listening to these self sabotaging narratives, and we all have them. And to have an expectation that we don't is probably a self sabotaging move in and of itself. So I teach people, the neuroscience of their brain, like you have, if you think about that three pound organ that exists between your ears, and if you were to cut it straight down the middle, the left side is what I call your primitive brain. And it's very fear based, it's meant to keep you alive. So it's fight or flight, right? Yeah, exactly. It gives you all of these very dramatic thoughts in an attempt to keep you safe and alive. Well, I mean, the reality is, is we're not really in a whole lot of danger. But yet we're sitting there listening to these fear based narratives. So for me, it was like, You better open up a bottle of wine because you're feeling stressed, you know, and I didn't question those narratives. I just did it. And then, you know, one glass led to two glasses. And then it led to nights and habits and overdrinking. And the same was true for the way I used food. I used food to numb the feelings because I was listening to these narratives. So we all have them. So and what I teach people to do is just to have an awareness of them. So you're less likely to react. Yeah, and more likely to respond with like a question where you really start to question the validity where you start to separate is that even true? You're separating fact from fiction. So that's what self made you has become for people, we help people overcome some of the problems that have haunted them their whole life, we help people get over some challenges that are new in their life, we help people achieve the small goals and the things that they once thought impossible. So our framework that we use is has literally unlimited applications. So at selfmade view, we have a lot of programming, where we take our framework, and we apply it to very specific applications, knowing that people learn best through experience application, I could sit here and talk to your audience for days upon days, but unless they actually have an applied learning experience, it's not probably going to land as well. So he take the framework that I teach, which is an acronym, it's S E, L F. So it's really learning how to utilize yourself, use yourself as the solution to all of your problems. Think of yourself as the solution to all of your problems if you're anything like me, I spent majority of my life thinking of myself as the common denominator to all of my problems. And now I Here I am today teaching people how to think of themselves as the solution. And so we use sglf as the framework, we apply it to absolutely everything right now, a lot of my clients are applying it to the stress of the holidays, the end of the year. Everything at the end of the year, whether it's personal or professional, so if you want me to, I'd be happy to give you an a rundown of what s elf actually stands for,
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] no, I would love to but before but before you do that, I want to just like touch really quickly on this, this idea of work life balance, which I feel like is a buzzword, the idea of self care, which is also a buzzword. And just the fact that like I think what you teach and how you work with people, is like really kind of bringing all of that together into making like a whole person. And maybe maybe that is part of your acronym, I don't because I don't know what they stand for. But I'm just like, this notion of like, we have to separate our work self, from our personal self, from our whatever self and that our limiting beliefs don't go like they don't feed into all of those areas, right? I mean, like, it's really those stories we tell ourselves leak into every part of ourselves, not just right, one or the other. No
[Tracy Pleschourt] doubt, no doubt about it. Yeah. And so it really requires you to make a decision, like you have to decide what it is that you want. Very specifically, what is it that you want? From your work life? What is it that you want from your home life? What is it that you want from your health? What is it that you want from your relationships? So many of us avoid doing that? It's a self sabotaging move, and we avoid asking ourselves the question, and if you do ask yourself the question, then you avoid answering the question. So because
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] what if I say anything? And then it doesn't come true? Or I can't achieve that or, or, or?
[Tracy Pleschourt] Right, right. So that's a function of your primitive brain, right? It's afraid of failing? And so it would, it would prefer that you just don't answer the question so that you don't have to fail. Right? And so, yeah, you see that all the time. And it's such a simple step, to start with a decision about what it is that you want, and asking yourself why. But it's a step that you know, most people avoid. And when you don't ask yourself that question, you kind of spin out in the state of chaos, or a feeling of being out of control. I know a lot of my clients who struggle with their weight, they come in telling me they feel out of control, they feel like they're almost eating against their own will. And it's because they haven't decided what it is that they want, and why that's a really important part like and and that gives me fodder for teaching them about their brain, their primitive brain and their prodigy brain. And which, which side which area? Are they operating from? Which one is the motivating, like, factor in all of this? Is it the is fear the motivation? Or is unconditional love the motivation? Because when you look at that, you get two entirely different end results. Yeah, and one looks like yo yo dieting, the fear looks like yo yo dieting as an end result. And you learned how to operate with unconditional love, or maybe even curiosity, or empathy. That looks like sustainable long term weight loss. But most weight loss companies don't really want you to know that because they want you to come back. And so
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] the yo yo is part of their marketing.
[Tracy Pleschourt] Yeah, so they're not going to start by solving the root cause of the problem. They're gonna go bandaid symptoms, which makes people really happy when they want to lose the weight. They're like hot damn if I can lose 10 pounds before Christmas. I'm in.
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] But we're a culture of immediate gratification. Exactly. Yeah. Of that. Yeah, let's jump into what self stands for and what each of those letters mean, and how we might start to work through some of these things for ourselves.
[Tracy Pleschourt] Yeah, so really, and I want you to start thinking about this as you know you the person and also think about it as the acronym because this it works simultaneously. So So the S is start with a decision. Start with a decision, what is it that I want? And why do I want it? And asking yourself the question is not enough, you have to answer that. And so I highly recommend using this as a journal prompt in the in the morning, and this is a great way to start your day. What is it that I want from my day today? What is it that I want from the next hour? Like we have a day planner that you can get on Amazon? And it walks you through this? Like, literally by the hour? It asks you like, what is it that you want? Why do you want it making decisions ahead of time is one of the superpowers that you probably didn't know you had like that ability to make a decision ahead of time it takes you out of those knee jerk reactions that almost always, you know, don't end well. And it puts you in a place of power. So we want you to be able to learn how to make decisions ahead of time, including a decision about what it is that you want, and why. So that's the S is you start with a decision. Yeah,
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] so So the so what I think is interesting about this is you're not looking at like, big picture like what do I grandiose? Like, what do I want for my life? You're just really taking it like moment by moment, like, what do I want to happen today, what's gonna make me feel good, so is that to kind of help us get those little wins, like, Hey, I said, this is what I wanted. And then I went, I went after it, and I got that I achieved that little goal. And now I'm going to do another one. And then I can achieve that is it to kind of make it
[Tracy Pleschourt] easier can you know, I think that getting really specific, especially, especially when you're utilizing the self framework, when you're really working to understand yourself getting very specific, and in the minutia, is going to be much more effective. Now, if you're sitting out in an unwanted feeling, that would be the exact opposite approach, I would take, I would actually zoom way out. And we would get out of the weeds and start looking at the bigger picture. But because, you know, I am committed to coming alongside of people as they become self made, which you can kind of interchange, self actualized and self made, or purpose driven. They all kind of mean the same thing. And most people are really, unknowingly, that's why they're here. That's why they are even like playing the game of life is they want to become self actualize. But in order to make that kind of an impact, often it's impacting other people's lives in a very significant way. You've got to be willing to change your own life. So I do take people through like really focusing on the hour by hour of their day, because we experience life through our feelings. So at the end of the day, if you are operating more from your prodigy brain, and less from your primitive brain, that's a huge win. End of Life, if you have operated more from your prodigy brain from like unconditional love and empathy and discovery and curiosity, over fear. That's a huge win. Yeah. Right. So this is applicable by the day, it's applicable by the life, it's applicable by the minute. So it made perfect sense that I should come out with a day planner, and really walk people through this because if you can apply it to your day, you can apply it to a relationship if you apply it to a weight loss Effort, Right. So. So the S is start with the decision. What is it that you want? Why do you want it the E is eliminate the self sabotage. So we all have these narratives that we're listening to there's 10 like very universal narratives, self sabotaging narratives that, you know, include the people pleaser, the judge where you're judging yourself, you're judging others, you're judging the circumstance, the one that's, you know, most common in my life, the hyper achiever, the avoider, you know, when we listen to these narratives, and we believe these narratives, it leaves us feeling in a way that we get net negative results. We are not, you know, acting as our best self, we are actually reacting and it really stunts our growth. And so it's not an we're not trying to eliminate the narratives we're trying to eliminate the risk of reacting to them.
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] So I want to do what we're saying to ourselves, and then changing the way that we react to that that story we're telling ourselves Exactly. So instead of reacting, I teach people to respond.
[Tracy Pleschourt] Okay, you react from your primitive brain from your fear based brain and super helpful if you're being chased by a tiger. But if you're not, it's really not that helpful. So I teach people how to respond to question by thinking, okay, so we offer a free saboteur assessment, so that you can become familiar with what narrative are you most likely to be listening to. And these narratives are actually like, birthed from our inherent strength. It's fascinating to see which saboteur narratives show up most in your life. Like the people pleaser, that shows up in people who are more empathetic, who are more loving and giving, they're very tuned in to other people's feelings and needs, they have a high EQ. Those are typically the people, the people that suffer from people pleasing. The avoider. On the other hand, these are people who are usually very flexible, they're very adaptable, they're easy to get along with. They're positive, they're non judgmental. But the likelihood of the avoider narrative to show up in that kind of person is high. Yeah, and so it's quite interesting to know so that you can be on the lookout for it. Because if you're on the lookout for it, it's less likely that it's going to sabotage you, you're just going to be like, oh, there, yep. And you're not gonna react, right, you're just gonna allow it to be there. Because it's very human. It's a very human part of our life. But what we want to work on strengthening is like having an awareness of it so that we can respond instead of reacting. That's how we eliminate the self sabotage. The L is leveraging your prodigy brain strengths. So just by virtue of being aware, that awareness actually has you, operating from your prodigy brain, doctor, scientists would call it your prefrontal cortex. When you are operating with a heightened sense of awareness, you are actually already operating from your prodigy brain. Now what I want you to do is now that we know you're there, I want you to leverage the strengths that are only accessible when you are in your prodigy brain. Those strengths look like empathy, discovery, innovation, navigation, okay? You have no access to those strengths. When you are spinning out in fear. When you are confused, when you're frustrated, you can't ask access innovation, you can't access creativity or curiosity. But you certainly can, when you have this heightened sense of awareness, and you're already operating from that prodigy brain. So we teach you how to leverage those strengths, like really maximize the fact that you're there.
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] Well, and I want to just take this to like, when I work with clients, I have several people that anyway, they're like, Well, what kind of clients are looking for. And it's so funny, because my response is always, it's not so much the type of business or the type of nonprofit, it's more the type of person who's willing to open up and do the work because we've had experiences with clients where they, they hire us to help them build their strategy and help them do their work. And then they get upset that they don't see the results. Because they don't imp they are not willing to actually implement or do the work because of all of the things that you're talking about versus those that are willing to kind of step outside, do the innovation work from like lose that space of fear and test and see what's going to happen. And it doesn't always work 100% But they do see results and things are going right in a forward momentum. And so for me hearing you say this, it's like very much like I want to work as a consultant with the people like you're referencing the people that are refusing to own up to what it is and where they're at. And the fear that they're their fear, because it doesn't matter what you do with them. They're not going to see results because they're not willing to like allow those things to happen and to do the
[Tracy Pleschourt] work. Yes. So when you can leverage like discovery, right? This is a strength that is afforded to you when you're operating from your prodigy brain. Well, it's fascinating because what you can discover from the willingness to fail Yeah, is endless, like you learn so much from being willing to fail. Like, there's nothing to be afraid of. And so that's the kind of behavior that's the kind of, that's the way you start showing up on the regular when you're operating from your prodigy brain. I mean, it's mind blowing how you almost intentionally, like lean in to all of the scary things that you never would have thought you could have done. Like, I do almost everything before I'm ready. Some of the programs we launched last year, I had no business, launching them. But I also know that I'm willing to feel the fear. And I know that if I fail, I'm gonna learn so much from it. So I'm okay with that. That's what it looks like to become self made. And, by the way, this is not like some finish line that you cross becoming self made coming self actualized. Living that purpose driven life, this is more like being on a merry go round, right? It's like, it's never ending, it keeps getting better, but it is what you make it Yeah. And so it's not a degree that you're going to get, it's like it's more of a muscle that you're going to continue to strengthen, and you're going to reap the rewards from it. So anyways, the final step is finishing with a decision. So as if this couldn't get any more simple, step one and step four, the same steps. But you finish with a decision that is so easy. It's almost hard not to do. Like, we take incremental, tiny, simple steps that when compounded, really start to yield significant progress, significant growth. So those people who are like, I want to lose weight, so I need to go on a 24 hour fast and cut out all of the carbs. And like, right, we've heard we know that might even be you. I know, that was me, at one point, that's a total self sabotaging move. But if you try to expand or extend the time in between your meals by an hour, and maybe you just eliminate the sugar in your diet, now we're taking incremental steps that when compounded, are really going to make significant progress. So we look for the easiest steps that we can take right now, as you become self made. You are only taking the next.
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] Yep, you don't have to guess you puzzle together. Yeah.
[Tracy Pleschourt] And as you take that step, the next one reveals itself. And it does require faith that, you know, all you have to do is know the next step. And I'm a testament to what that looks like you know, it's like coming out of corporate, overcoming my overdrinking problems and not drinking at all anymore, I would have been the last person on Earth that I would have thought could overcome something like that, because I I leaned so heavily on to that as a way to numb the unwanted feelings. And here I am today to tell the story that it is through the incremental steps in the faith that the next step will reveal itself. I've learned how to utilize myself as a solution to stop thinking of myself as the problem to stop thinking of myself, as you know, the common denominator to all of the brokenness, like that, in and of itself is such a self sabotaging thought, it's going to keep you in a place of defeat, and you will not be able to create sustainable, long lasting results when you're feeling that way. And so we have to get to the root cause we have to solve the root cause and it is always how you are thinking and feeling. So that's what the sell framework is all about. And it really does require you to play around with that belief that you really can be the solution that you can, you can learn to trust yourself and it can be in your back pocket and you can pull it out and apply it to anything. So as we
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] think about like, burnout in the fundraising space in the development space is huge. The staffing numbers are looking, you know, surveys are saying people are going to be leaving and not coming back and that there's just anyway, burnout is awful and especially this time of year so Will, you know if you kind of wanted to give somebody one or two quick tips for how they might start to just implement some of this stuff immediately in their day to day life so that they can continue to still feel passionate and excited about the work that they're doing? And start to work through this? Like, what would have maybe one or two things that they could just kind of write down? Keep in their pocket and start with immediately?
[Tracy Pleschourt] Yeah, okay. So first thing, you don't have to have our planner to be able to do this, you literally could do this with your digital calendar, you could do this on just a notepad, but deciding ahead of time. So look at the next hour like after this podcast, I'll probably go make dinner for my family. And yeah, right. And so because my 24 year old son was just in here, he's like, what's for dinner, I'm like, you're gonna be waiting an hour because I got a punch. But I want to make a decision ahead of time about how it is that I want to feel, not how I want to show up, not how, what it is that I want to make for dinner, not what I'm going to say to him, that's not the decision that I'm making. So this is very, like, revolutionary, I think I want you to make a decision about how it is that you want to feel in the next hour. And this, once you start getting good at this, you literally start doing this every hour of every day you decide ahead of time, how is it that I want to feel over the course of the next hour? Okay, once I've decided that, so maybe it's curious, right? It's like, you can't go wrong with curiosity, I want to feel curious, okay, what would I have to be thinking or believing to generate that feeling? Because the only thing that generates feelings are the thoughts that are going through our head. And so they're either unintentional, or they're intentional. So we're going to play with the fact that we can be intentional about our thinking, to create the way we want to feel. If we experience life through our feelings, wouldn't it make sense to take the bull by the horn, and decide how it is that we want to feel hour by hour by hour, so
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] that you're not going to say I want to feel like crap in the next hour, or I want to be mad, or I want to, you're not gonna say that,
[Tracy Pleschourt] right. And I will say, there are times when I do this, and I just want to feel indifferent. I want to feel neutral, especially when I'm really having a day. And I noticed that I'm feeling frustrated, maybe you know, going to sliding down rainbows is too much of a stretch. So maybe I just want to be a little neutral or indifferent. Like that's a lot more, like, easy to swallow. And so then you'd have to ask yourself, what is it that's believable? Now, this is key, it has to be something that's believable. What is it that I believe that will generate that feeling? And it doesn't have to be necessarily in the context of dinner to be about anything? Like if I decide I want to feel curious, what is it that I have to be believing? Any thoughts on that?
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] No, I mean, I just I like it. Because again, similar to what you said earlier, as we think about this work, like trying to shift our mindset trying to shift our limiting belief. I think a lot of times we don't do that work, because it feels overwhelming. Like we have to do a huge shift all at once in order to make impact. So I love it, because you're just boiling it down and just and giving yourself the flexibility to change in each hour. So this hour, I might know what I've got going on. And maybe I know I'm recording this podcast with you. And so I'm excited to be curious. And you know, maybe next hour as I'm cooking dinner and spending time with family, I'm I'm wanting to feel content and happy and you know, maybe an hour later I'm wanting to feel tired and just embrace that and go to bed like, right, because we can kind of start to intentionally move through our day with what we have planned. But instead of just saying this is just how my day is saying well, I have some control even though this is how my day is I have some control about how I want to feel and I will put energy and intention intention into then what how I show up in the way that I you know what I accept and what I don't accept. So I I've never heard it explained in this in this way. And I think it can be really empowering. I think it's beautiful. Yeah, yeah. And so, um, I do this at the beginning of every day. So I had the podcast on my calendar at 430 Central Standard Time. And I so that's the commitment and that's how most people use a day planner and that's where it stops. They just have the commitment right but the net X column asks me, how do you want to feel. And so what I put on that was helpful. And then the next column. So step three is what is it that I'd have to believe in order to feel helpful. Now all of these decisions are being made ahead of time, these were all made at like eight o'clock this morning. But I do reference it before going into the hour. And so what I decided I would have to believe is that I have the cure for suffering.
[Tracy Pleschourt] I truly believe that like, I literally feel like I have the cure to cancer some days, because when people are suffering, the fact that I can teach them this is it drops me to my knees some days, because you see the impact that you get to make going on podcast is like the best thing in the world. So I want to just feel helpful. And I know I feel helpful when I believe that I've got the cure to suffering. And so how
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] amazing would that be if on your calendar, it's like you have a donor visit with somebody you're really excited about, and you say, I want to feel confident, and that you know, what your what's going to come out of that is that you have even if it's just like you have another conversation ready to go with that person, you're going to move it to the next level like to set that in your brain. And I know you can, you know, we need to wrap this up. I know you can talk a whole lot more about the neuroscience in in manifesting and limiting beliefs and whatnot, but to just set that intention in the morning with all of the appointments that you have with how you want to feel about it. And what that's going to become I think, is incredibly powerful, and then just be able to glance down on your sheet and be like, okay, yep. Okay, I'm off. See you later. How are we? Yeah, go up differently for people and for yourself. And in a truly wonderful way.
[Tracy Pleschourt] Yeah, night and day difference when you're intentional. It's night and day difference, the results are so extraordinary. So I highly recommend that I would say first and foremost. Secondly, we actually one of the change your mind programs that we are launching in 2024 is called mid career burnout to break throughs exactly what you're talking about. So we actually have a six week program for people who are really struggling with burnout. And wanting to better understand how to very specifically apply this framework to their professional life. So that's coming in 2024. We have a masterclass on December 29, that teaches you how to and it's totally free, how to apply the self framework to overeating. And we will be launching self made mind and body which is a 10 week program on January 8, but you can come to a masterclass and see if it's something that will be helpful to you. So lots of free resources, I highly recommend just going to our website, self made u.com and just
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] gonna say you'll get me all the links, and we'll make sure that those are all in the show notes as well. Okay, well, before we wrap this up, Tracy and before you kind of give everybody your all of your contact information, all the good stuff, would you run through? What is E L? F stands for just one last time for people to kind of get that last reminder.
[Tracy Pleschourt] You bet start with a decision decision. What is it that you want? Why do you want it? And this can be very, very specific and or it can be you know, bigger it can be? What is it that you want this year? I think the the more specific you get the harder working the framework is. So what is it that you want? And why do you want it that's the s start with a decision. Ie eliminate the self sabotage, recognize what narratives you're listening to. And when you are on the lookout for them. When you have more and more of an awareness, you're less likely to fall victim to self sabotage. l leverage your strength when you're operating from your prodigy brain, which you are when you have a heightened sense of awareness. Now you can leverage empathy discovery, innovation, navigation, and then finally finished with the decision. What is the next best step that is so easy, it's almost hard not to do.
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] Oh, well, that was like the perfect line to end this podcast and what because I think we overcomplicate everything as human beings whether it's personal or professional. Um, Tracy, this was amazing. I think I love just there's such great action items for people to just get started with and start creating new habits and starting build to build new habits. Could you just give people your website address again and then we will have everything linked up in the show notes at https://thefirstclick.net/236. But how can people connect with you and engage With you moving forward, yeah, www
[Tracy Pleschourt] dot self s elf dash made ma D and then it's the letter u.com That will take you to all of our social media channels and give you access to all the free resources.
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] Yeah. And, you know, I think this is really important not just for us as nonprofit leaders or fundraisers, but also just like to model this work for our teams and the people that we are engaging with, just to keep employee retention to keep create that better culture in our organization. So I really appreciate you coming on and talking about this and kind of sharing your wisdom with everybody. Tracy, thank you so much for being here. My pleasure. Thanks
[Tracy Pleschourt] so much for having me. So how are you feeling
[Sami Bedell-Mulhern] overwhelmed, excited, ready to kind of tackle some of these things. I know it can be scary to get real with ourselves and really address some of the things that we know are holding ourselves back. But I promise you, if you can do some of this work, it's going to make 2020 for your best year yet. So head on over to the show notes for this episode, so that you can get all of the resources and information and connect with Tracy. You can do that at https://thefirstclick.net/236. We only have one more episode left for the rest of this year. I can't believe it. Thank you so much for being incredible listeners and hanging in there. We've got some great things on the horizon for 2024. So make sure you're subscribed wherever you're listening or watching on YouTube. We're here for you. And I cannot wait to walk alongside you as we navigate 2024 and make it your best year. Yeah. Thank you so much for listening, and I'll see you in the next one.